Making Mealtimes Dignified: A Guide for Dementia Carers
Dementia can present challenges, and mealtimes are no exception. Carers often witness refusal to eat, agitation, and confusion around food. Jo Bonser, who cared for her mother with dementia, shares her experiences and insights to help you create a positive mealtime experience for your loved one.
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This blog is brought to you by The Live In Care Company, partnering with Jo Bonser, founder of Dignified Dining, to share Jo’s expertise on improving mealtimes for those living with dementia.
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Why it Matters
Refusal to eat is a common symptom of dementia, but it rarely signifies a lack of appetite. There could be over 30 reasons behind it. Discomfort, confusion, or difficulty using utensils can all contribute.
A nourishing diet is crucial for maintaining health and well-being. Beyond just the physical benefits, mealtimes can be a source of social interaction and enjoyment.
Transforming Mealtimes
- Focus on the Environment: Calm and quiet surroundings are ideal. Turn off the television and address any background noise. Reduce clutter on the table – it can be visually overwhelming.
- Presentation Matters: Simplify! Offer a single course at a time, with a limited amount of food on the plate. Avoid busy patterns on plates, which can be mistaken for food. Use brightly coloured glasses to help them see their drinks.
- Become a Dining Partner: Sit with your loved one during meals. Engage in conversation and create a social atmosphere. Encourage them to eat independently for as long as possible, even if it means using their fingers or alternative cutlery.
- Respect Preferences: Be flexible. If they prefer to eat their pudding first, or use a knife instead of a fork, allow it. The goal is for them to consume nourishing food in a comfortable way.
- Cater to Individual Needs: Some may benefit from finger foods, while others might need thicker liquids to prevent choking. Observe their needs and adapt accordingly.
- Hydration is Key: Dehydration can be a serious concern. Use their favourite cup or glass, offer their preferred drinks, and provide regular prompts throughout the day. Explore high-water-content foods like fruits and vegetables.
Recognising Malnutrition
Look for signs like weight loss, loose clothing, sunken eyes, or pale skin. Changes in appetite, fatigue, or digestive issues can also be indicators. If you have any concerns, consult a doctor or dietician.
Dignified Dining: Resources and Support
Jo’s website, Dignified Dining (dignifieddining.co.uk), offers free resources, including guides on creating a positive mealtime experience and navigating in-room dining. She also provides consultations and support for families.
Conclusion
By making small changes to the environment, presentation, and approach to mealtimes, you can significantly improve your loved one’s experience. Remember, mealtimes are more than just about food – they are about connection, dignity, and shared moments.
The Live In Care Company
The Live In Care Company is committed to providing high-quality care for those living with dementia. Our carers are trained to understand the unique challenges of dementia and can offer support with mealtimes and other daily activities. Contact us today to learn more about how we can help your loved one.
